Forum and discussion for pregnant mother
There is a whole world in your area that non-parents know nothing about. This world is full of antenatal groups, parenting classes, active birth classes, antenatal swimming classes and yoga classes.
Getting off the sofa and out there into the world of new and pregnant mums is the best preparation for parenthood you can do. The friends you make will be your lifeline through late pregnancy and early motherhood. And those bumps will be your baby’s first friends.
Let it be to use your pregnancy to make new local friendships with other mums or mums-to-be if we can give you one piece of advice.
Meet a Mum
You can exchange emails, find out about each other and then arrange to meet up. Click here to find out all about Meet a Mum and how it works.
Visit your local Meet a Mum board here
Local antenatal exercise and preparing for parenthood classes
We all know that antenatal parenting classes are great for helping prepare you for birth and beyond and that antenatal exercise classes have loads of great health benefits, but one of the most important things is that these are probably one of the first places that you’ll start to meet other mums to be, especially if you’re a first time mum.
Take a look at our guide to the different types of classes available, and find out what’s available locally.
How a mothers group can help you
Robin Bonner was seven months pregnant with her first child when she and her husband moved from Cambridge, United Kingdom, to Cambridge, Massachusetts. Isolated and on the brink of motherhood, Bonner says she knew she wanted– and would need– a support network once her baby was born, but she wasn’t quite sure where to look.
Directed by an informational flier, Bonner, 34 at the time, found a mothers group through the medical department at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, where her husband is a post-doctoral fellow. “A mothers group is a great way to relieve your anxieties.”
” We hope people bond with each other when they meet in class,” says Becky Sarah, a childbirth education coordinator of the New Mom’s Group at Newton-Wellesley Hospital in Newton, Massachusetts.
The group was established in 1999 to meet the specific needs of new moms and to help answer their many questions: How can I get some sleep? Is my newborn’s behavior normal? I used to work– now, what will I do all day at home?
Wondering how popular mothers groups are? According to a recent survey, 37 percent of BabyCenter moms belong to a mothers group. And the groups are fairly large– 52 percent said their group has 10 or more women in it.
Finding a group that’s right for you
When it comes to finding a moms group in your community, a lot depends on where you live. In some cities, facilitators organize groups and advertise them in local newspapers or parenting publications.
Due Date Club
Join your Due Date Club to meet other mums-to-be who are due at the same time. This is a great way to share experiences, worries and excitement with those at exactly the same stage of pregnancy as you.
Join your Due Date Club here
The Netmums Coffee House: Netmums-to-be
The Netmums-to-Be Board is a special rumpibayi forum for pregnant mums to get together from all over the country for chats, advice, fun and support. You can start by reading what everyone else is up to and join in when you are ready.
According to Bonner, the best advice is to be bold and speak up: “Talk to other moms, because the way you hear about kids’ stuff is through the grapevine.” If they know of any good mothers groups, go up to other moms at the playground or in the grocery store and ask them.
Hospitals can be a great resource, too. That’s where Laine Ehmann hooked up with a group for first-time mothers and, ultimately, made some new friends.
Ehmann, 32, delivered her first child at Good Samaritan Hospital in San Jose, California. She says the hospital caters to new mothers with its strong postpartum support network, which also includes breastfeeding information. What its new moms group lacked in intimacy it made up for in bringing together like-minded women.
” The sessions were huge, but a group of us kind of bonded and then would meet weekly at our homes for smaller playgroups,” says Ehmann.
The Web can be a good resource for finding moms groups, too. Mary James is involved with a site called International Moms Club, which caters specifically to at-home moms, whether first-timers or experienced, to help them connect with other women going through similar experiences.
James, who has two teenage daughters, began the Moms Club in Simi Valley, California., and says that today the club has more than 50,000 members in more than 1,000 chapters nationwide, as well as in Europe and Africa.
“Many women find specific support for at-home mothers the biggest benefit to joining. The new mothers learn from the experienced moms and the experienced moms often have third or second children the same age as the newer moms,” she says.
If you have special needs or concerns, try contacting organizations that cater to your situation, whether you’re parenting multiples, suffering from postpartum depression, raising a child on your own, or caring for a preemie, these groups may be able to refer you to a specialized mothers group.
The only foolproof way to make your final decision is to start visiting them once you have a list of groups you’re interested in. You’ll know in an hour whether you feel connected to the women or not.
Start your own if you can’t find the perfect group
If you’re having trouble finding a group that meets weekends or evenings, don’t give up. If you work in a large organization, you might even be able to set up a moms group with some of your co-workers.